Meags hits the girls up with wedding questions - how many you been in? Weirdest experience? Did your fulfill your childhood dreams?
Meags hits the girls up with wedding questions - how many you been in? Weirdest experience? Did your fulfill your childhood dreams?
Hey guys.
Meags:Hi there.
Drea:How are your weekends?
Meags:was good. There was a lot of Kathy, a whole day full of Kathy. It is great.
Drea:How long were you, when did
Kathy:I'm in Maine, so it's awesome.
Drea:yeah, I mean, so beautiful.
Lisa:I was, at a wedding yesterday, my niece, and it was very nice. I, it was very hot. The reception was outside, but it was
Drea:Oh,
Lisa:And, but I do have an interesting story about afterwards what happened.
Drea:do you
Lisa:See what you guys think of. It's ki it's just, it's so amazing that things occurred the right way. And I was, my phone disappeared. Let's start there. We're on our way home and realized I have my phone. Like, well, why, why wouldn't I have my phone? I had it. We had to like help, I helped pack up the cars with all the, the centerpieces and stuff, you know, gifts. So my phone had disappeared. And then so we have that like 360 app, you know, to help keep track of the kids and where they're at and stuff. It's like, well, let's see where, it says I am. And it had me going out to West County where my sister-in-law lives and I'm like, oh, I must have somehow ended up in her car, right? Like just putting stuff in the car. It just got left in her car. Okay. So we're follow. And Joe looks at it when we get home and you know, and is texting her and stuff. I think it's in your car. And my phone was just sitting in one spot, like, literally looked like it was just on the side of the road and he was worried like something happened. Are you okay? Did you car breakdown or something? Oh no, we're fine. We're home. My phone wasn't at her house. It was literally on the side of the road.
Meags:What.
Drea:Wow.
Kathy:You put it on top of the car.
Lisa:We drove to my phone, to my phone and it seriously was on the shoulder. Like we were so lucky. It's right here and there's like a tiny little like you could tell it hit like right here. It's all like chewed up, there's a hairline crack and pointing to the corner of my phone and it's just amazing. It was like left open and it was pouring down rain cause they have a little like wallet on the back of it. So all that was soaking wet and my phone was wet, but it still works and it's not, it should be in a million pieces cuz she's like, well when we turned off the highway you be heard something in the back. And she thought some of the stuff just like spilled out in the back, like the centerpiece just went away or something. But it must have been my phone on her roof, like sliding off and going off.
Meags:Oh my God,
Lisa:I'm not insane. It's insane that it survives. Really?
Meags:you should go buy a lottery ticket today
Lisa:Yeah.
Kathy:Hmm.
Meags:clearly it is your lucky day.
Lisa:I mean, cuz seriously, she, we were in the city of St. Louis and she lives out like 30 minutes away from the city and it somehow threw off as she got off the interstate. Just flew off the car. Amazing. Yeah. Thank God we had Life 360 here. I mean, we have fine your phone, but that's a little, I don't know, it's not as exact, I don't think as, like 360. So.
Meags:Good
Drea:for you. It's a good story. I like that. I like that you f
Meags:good story.
Drea:I lost my phone, like a year and a half ago. I don't know what the fuck I did. And, but I, like, I had my work phone and my personal phone and I was leaving Buffalo to come home for Christmas and I thought that I'd accidentally left my phone, my personal phone in my car. So I didn't really bother with trying to find it until it was too late. And then I realized by the time I was looking for it, I thought like it would just be there when I got back. But I was gone for like three weeks and when I came back and it wasn't in my car, it was just, it was just at a loss. So it was lost at that point. So,
Meags:Good, good and thoroughly lost,
Drea:Yes,
Meags:not just a little, not misplaced, not like, you know, just really lost.
Drea:I have absolutely no idea what happened to that phone.
Lisa:Wow.
Drea:No idea. Yeah. I am really good at losing things. That's my un, my unwanted special power. I can lose things like in half a second or less.
Meags:Yeah.
Lisa:Well,
Drea:You guys are like, yes. Yes, you can.
Kathy:Very specific,
Lisa:power things
Kathy:very useless power,
Drea:What? What, Lisa? What? Kathy?
Kathy:says a very specific, very useless power.
Drea:Yes. It's a nuisance is what it is. It's a nuisance power. So,
Lisa:Yeah. The funny thing was that Joe's like, it's always, you know, seems at start. Where's my phone? He's like, you say that like, at least once a day.
Drea:Mm.
Lisa:I know,
Meags:So here's what you need, Lisa. Would you like to know why I never have to say where's my phone? Because my watch has a thing that I can press and it makes my phone make noise. So,
Lisa:well see I didn't have my, I might have a Fitbit and I can do that,
Meags:It's a very, it's a very helpful thing to have it. Do I use it a lot?
Lisa:I did not have that watch on cuz it did not look nice with my nice dress for the wedding. So
Kathy:Makes sense.
Meags:Yeah.
Lisa:probably wouldn't help since it was sitting on top of another car driving in a different direction.
Meags:No, in that case, no, but like that part where you, every, at least once every day, Joe says to you, you say that every day. Like that part it would help with, I guarantee
Lisa:You
Meags:once you build the habit so that you think you don't, so you don't verbalize it. You just tap your phone and you find it.
Drea:Finds it for you.
Meags:And my kids are always like, are you looking for your phone again? Like, hush, I'm not asking for anybody's help. I'm doing it on my own. Leave me alone. I have a lot of things that I have to keep track of and if I need to ping my phone like three or four times a day to figure out whether I left it in the kitchen or the bathroom or the bedroom, just how it goes.
Drea:Yeah,
Lisa:you ever, do you ever my dog will be laying on top of it sometimes. It's kinda funny. She's like, why are you lying on top of the phone? Isn't that uncomfortable?
Meags:our dog has not shown any interest in phones, so like no, I haven't. That's interesting.
Drea:Kathy's are too small.
Kathy:maybe it's warm.
Lisa:Well, no. She only weighs, no, the puppy's now at 25 pounds. She's, yeah. Weighs on top of my phone.
Drea:Well, last year I. Once I, you know, I got my new phone. This made me think all this discussion about like finding a phone. So last year I was at the pharmacy and I had covid and I was waiting for something. And then while I was waiting, I was sitting down and before I knew it, I walked away and I lost my fucking phone. And I was like, what the hell? And so then, like, I knew to, I, I, I could find my phone, but I had to go back to the house to get my computer. So I went back to the house to get my computer to use the find my phone. And I had to get, like, I didn't have wireless, I didn't have wifi. So then I had to go back to the house again to get my work phone to use as a hotspot. And then like I went, and then at that point I was able to find it. So,
Meags:goodness.
Lisa:that's a lot of work.
Drea:That's a lot. But I, this is the phone I had just lost. So like, it had only been like three months, so I was like, I've gotta hold onto this thing a little bit longer. Just a little longer.
Kathy:So was it somewhere random in Walgreens?
Drea:It was, it was, I, it had fallen down, like I'd been sitting on like a poof. I don't know why they had a poof there, but I was sitting on a poof and it had slid down behind the poof, between the, I don't know, the display and the poof. So it was legit hard to find. And, but I, but then like my phone, I guess that my computer beeps as I get closer to it, you know, and it like beeps louder, which I
Kathy:Beeping all through Wal Walgreens?
Drea:So, cause like, imagine like I'm just carrying my computer in front of me, like, beep, beep, beep. Never a dull moment.
Kathy:Nope.
Meags:Yeah, people leave their phones in my store all the time. But phones are great cuz phones are never lost. We never have one in the store for more than about 10 minutes. Cuz that seems to be the average on, on when people, you know how long people go without checking their phone, car keys. We can have car keys for days,
Drea:Oh,
Meags:but like phones, it's like, oh no, they'll be back for that shortly. Yep. They're always back for it shortly. Nobody
Drea:Do you guys wanna get started?
Kathy:Yeah.
Meags:sure who's doing stuff.
Lisa:Yeah. What was the plan on that today?
Drea:Oh, I thought we were gonna ask questions. I get some icebreaker questions.
Meags:I was gonna say we, I can def, I can certainly ask questions. I can certainly pick a category for us and ask questions.
Drea:Yeah, pick a category. Any category. We'll answer these questions. Oh, I can. I tell you guys though, before we get, I'm sorry.
Meags:No, you can tell Go,
Drea:Okay, so I was, with some other girlfriends on Friday night. We have like a game night and we are having a really good time, and one of the ladies has a senior in high school who just graduated and her daughter called her to ask, like, she, I, I don't know if she was, this was in progress or not, but apparently she was having sex with some guy and he kept sliding out and she called her mom to figure out what to do about
Kathy:No.
Lisa:Oh my God,
Drea:You imagine I would die. I would die.
Meags:no. Hard. No, no.
Drea:what your friends are for,
Lisa:right?
Meags:yeah,
Kathy:I, I mean, or just figure it out. I.
Meags:yeah,
Drea:internet?
Lisa:Mm-hmm.
Drea:Yeah. Okay.
Meags:I mean, that's,
Drea:I know, I know.
Meags:I mean the kids these days. Aye, I, I worry, I worry about our future.
Drea:you should. Okay. That was my, that was my last off topic, although it was pretty good off topic.
Meags:It was a pretty good off topic. I agree. all right, so let's think about, well, I know we've talked about vacations, we talked about concerts, so maybe we should talk about, well, in honor of Lisa's weekend, we're gonna talk about weddings because I know that all of us have been to a number of weddings.
Drea:This is true.
Lisa:Yes.
Meags:why don't we open with, what's the first wedding you remember attending?
Lisa:Oh.
Drea:my
Meags:I can tell you mine right away because I was at Flower Girl when I was
Lisa:Oh
Drea:Oh, so cute.
Meags:Oh no, there was, of course there was family drama, but I did have fun. That's really all that matters. Well, we were in Chicago and the wedding was in Massachusetts. And so my grandmother me kept making decisions that were like, they, they changed, like they changed all the bridesmaids dresses and they were just gonna let me be whatever the other color was because they didn't wanna bother my mother in Chicago and have her get me another dress. Yeah, no. So I have some very cute pictures of myself all, all in pink at a wedding, at a very seventies wedding. Well, huh. It wasn't two seventies. It averagely seventies. but like, you know, 78, 79, the first, the first of my many times down the aisle for other folks.
Drea:Yeah. You were just warming up.
Meags:I was just getting, just kicking off. All right, so who else remembers first wedding they went to?
Lisa:I do, I was thinking about it yesterday actually, cuz I was at a wedding. The, it was my mom's cousin. I didn't really know them, but kids were invited and my mom, I remember wasn't gonna take us or take any of, any of the kids, but I was, I was like, I really wanna go to a wedding. Like, you know, I, I must have been like six maybe. And I, you know, you just wanna go to a wedding, wanna see the bride and everything. Cause you just see it like on TV shows and stuff. I'm like, I don't wanna see a real wedding. And, and I remember going and I think I was a real pain in the butt. So I remember begging my grandma through the whole ceremony for gum and she wasn't very happy with it. That's really all I remember about the wedding.
Meags:awesome.
Lisa:I'm like, I need some gum. And I think she gave me like a half a piece of gum cuz she thought little kids, I guess only
Kathy:Yeah, they always gave us half a piece. What the hell?
Lisa:I dunno. And
Drea:Yeah. Why?
Lisa:and it was her peppermint gum.
Meags:it's the, it's the Depression era grandparents. That's what it is right there.
Lisa:makes sense. Yeah.
Drea:that makes sense.
Lisa:I remember complaining that I was, I was big enough for a whole piece of gum and she kept telling me it wasn't.
Kathy:half a piece of the smallest cup. Remember, it was always trident, it was always split in half. I was like, what is this? There's not even enough to chew. It's like a chick.
Drea:Oh my God, that's too funny.
Meags:that's a good one.
Kathy:I, I actually, I actually know that I went to a wedding that I was probably the first wedding I ever went to, but I don't remember it because I also was a flower girl, and I've seen the pictures, they're hanging in my mom's hallway, but I don't actually really remember it. Like the wedding itself.
Meags:yep.
Kathy:I remember kind of having the dress and the little, it was the seventies, so it was like a. Basket, like a white wick basket with a handle. And, but the way, the first wedding I remember was a little bit, probably a few years later than that, I was probably mid to late elementary school. And my dad, there was a couple and he worked in my dad's lab, Tim and Susan, and my parents really liked them, but they also sort of, kind of, I mean, they were like crazy. They weren't like that much younger than my parents since my parents were still pretty young, but they were young. And so my parents kind of like helped him along. They were both like way like their parents and families live, you know, well across the country. So, they dated and they got engaged and they got married. And I remember, I mean, the wedding was pretty simple. And then we had the reception at our house them, and it was just like, I really liked them a lot. as a couple. And then like, you know, they later had like a kid, and I remember we, we used to play with, you know, they were always, we were always with them. We were always like over at their house or they were at our house and they would bring the baby and
Drea:Mm, love those babies.
Kathy:So it was just really sweet, you know, it was like, it was very small and very kind of intimate kind of wedding. I don't, I mean there's maybe 15, 20 people that came to our house.
Drea:Oh, okay. I was wondering cause I was like, your parents' house isn't
Kathy:Heard.
Drea:big.
Kathy:Right.
Drea:Oh,
Kathy:Reception there. people, people was, yeah, it was like kinda like inside and out in the backyard and yeah. Small.
Drea:well, my first wedding, I don't even remember going to any when I was a kid, so, I will, I will say that my first wedding was my cousin Eden's wedding. That was the, we, that was the summer. I was in four. It was after, I guess, right after our freshman year. And, I was in three weddings that summer, so that was the first of three. But
Lisa:remember that. I remember you coming back and talking about all these weddings. Yeah.
Drea:yeah. But I can tell you like a better story is Zale's story about becoming a flower girl. Do you guys
Lisa:Oh, that story.
Drea:It's, it's a great one. So I think all our listeners needed to hear this as well. So, so Za was, she was, I don't know, she was really close to Jenna. Right. Our friend Jenna. And. She was supposed to be in Jenna's wedding. Jenna told her she was gonna be in the wedding and Zay was excited. They love each other. And then, just a few months before it was time for Jenna to get married, Jenna had called and she's like, we, I can't have Zla in the wedding cuz I don't wanna have my son so terrible. I wanna have my niece in the wedding and I can't have Zla if I don't have my niece. So I'm just, we're not gonna have any kids. And Xla was just devastated, completely devastated, you know, it was horrible. And so then I was, I was desperate. I was like going through all the names. All, everybody was already married, right? Like, all of you people were already married so I could like, hit you up. And so, so I was like, I called my little brother and I was, who didn't have a, you know, had never really had like a serious girlfriend or anything. And I was like, Dean, if you get married, say can be a. Flower girl in your wedding, right? And he was like, sure. he was like 31, that it was not, this is not really a concern of his, he wasn't planning on getting married. And then of course, like a year later he met someone and, and she had already been married before, so she really kind of wanted to elope and yeah, Dean was like, I can't, I can't, I can't do that. I can't do that. I promised, I promised my niece that she, she could be a flower girl. And then my mom was now all up into it too. My mom was like, now you guys, you can't go in elope now You have to have za needs to be a flower girl in your wedding.
Meags:Oh my God.
Drea:So, so yeah, that was, that was a, that was a better, I guess, first wedding experience than, than mine.
Lisa:Actually though Zas first wedding was at my wedding. I think it was her first wedding.
Drea:Oh,
Meags:actually Zale's first wedding was my wedding.
Lisa:well, it was, wasn't born yet, but yes.
Drea:was eight weeks. Eight weeks in utero.
Meags:her presence was very much, felt. Her mother was super freaking puy all over the place.
Lisa:No, it was, it was funny. So it was kind of a thing at my wedding that we. I had a flower girl, cuz Joe had nieces and nephews and they were all in the wedding and they were invited. But like beyond that, we didn't have any kids in the wedding. We were like invited to the wedding. But then, so Andrea and Adam were coming and then a hurricane was gonna hit Houston while they were gonna be in St. Louis. So they're like, by the way, ELAs coming.
Drea:Well, no, we asked if we could bring her cuz we couldn't. We would cuz like we weren't gonna leave her.
Lisa:Right.
Kathy:I mean, yeah, you're gonna leave her in a hurricane.
Lisa:I
Drea:were not gonna leave her in a hurricane.
Lisa:Katrina had happened what, like a month before. I mean it, yeah. It's so, yeah. So she was there and I just remember her looking at me and being like, you're a princess.
Drea:she, she loved you
Lisa:It was so sweet.
Drea:and you did. You looked beautiful. That was a beautiful day.
Lisa:Thank you. A beautiful day. I wish I, it was great. You know, it was actually a day that, I mean, no, it didn't all go perfectly, but nothing major, major. It was, it was hot at the end of September,
Kathy:I was.
Lisa:I was gonna have this
Kathy:We, had to stop and get paper towels so I could dry your under your armpits.
Lisa:oh yeah,
Kathy:We took
Drea:we do for love,
Kathy:what we do for love.
Lisa:it was really hot and the van, we rented the party bus or whatever, did not have, it was really, it really looked nice, but the air conditioning didn't work.
Kathy:So hot in That van.
Lisa:sucked ass.
Meags:Yeah. Yikes.
Kathy:So hot in that van.
Lisa:So, so then I got on the bus and my mom was just like, oh my God, you're, I'm like, I know I look sweaty, I look horrible. Let me go freshen up. Like nothing I can do about it, mom.
Drea:Get off my back.
Kathy:It was like 96 degrees or something. It was so hot.
Lisa:And then the next day it like poured down rain. As we're leaving, we left the
Drea:Yeah. Cause you had a, you had, cause you guys had a cold front cuz then we took Zla to the Arina cuz we stayed a couple of extra days.
Lisa:Oh,
Drea:It was lovely. That's lovely.
Lisa:There's a lot of neat things. You went, you went to the Botanical Gardens
Drea:Maybe, I don't dunno. We went to,
Meags:Maybe,
Drea:We went and saw, I mean, it was a long ass time ago, like we went and saw pretty flowers, I think. I'm pretty sure.
Lisa:That's, yeah. See how gardens arre? Same thing.
Drea:All right. All right. What's our next question?
Meags:I think that our next question Ooh, hold on. Please hold, talk amongst yourself.
Lisa:All right. She is muted out to cough.
Drea:Oh yeah. Is she
Meags:Sorry, not only am I coughing, but I realized that, I looked at my microphone at the end of last week and I was like, why does my microphone look weird? And it's like, oh, I lost the foam piece. It goes on it. So it's like I'm trying to be extra careful to not be real close to it and make big ruckus, like coughing. so I think that the next question that we are gonna go with is, how many weddings have you been in, including your own in.
Kathy:Oh,
Meags:But I feel like this is tough cuz like, now that I'm asking this question, I'm like, well, do I count the one where I officiated? Do I count the one where I read, but I wasn't. Yeah, it's like, so like,
Lisa:when I did a reading, I did reading in Andreas.
Kathy:yes. You count. You count anything in which you are participatory.
Meags:all right, fair enough.
Kathy:Okay, hang on.
Meags:that's gonna be a big number then.
Kathy:We're gonna need, we're gonna need a minute.
Meags:Yeah. We're, we're working on it here. This, this one needed prep. I should have sent this one out early.
Drea:I think, I know, I'm pretty sure, I know I'm gonna, I'm gonna try to go in, in like chronological order. So I was in my cousin Eden's wedding and then I was in my cousin Kim's wedding, and then I was in my brother's wedding at my older brother. and then, We stopped doing weddings for a while until we started getting all married. And then my cousin Sally, I was at her wedding and then, I was mine. I was mine. And,
Meags:Don't miss that one.
Drea:and Megan's and Kathy, the other Kathy, and Beth and then my friend Catherine. I did a reading in hers and I had zalo like three days later and it was pretty wild. I looked, I saw pictures of myself. I was huge, but it was a very powerful, wonderful reading. I know that people were crying.
Meags:Oh my goodness.
Drea:just kidding. They weren't really crying, but it was, it was a good reading.
Meags:I love that. Perfect.
Drea:I guess it's nine, I thought it was eight, but it was nine.
Kathy:I, I think I'm also nine.
Meags:Only nine is the magic number this weekend,
Lisa:Yeah.
Kathy:It, it is. So let's see. Are we, are we reading off what we were in?
Meags:Yeah, go for it.
Kathy:Okay, well, very young flower girl wedding. Who? I don't, I don't know who these people, these are not chron.
Drea:You were like an extra. You're like an extra.
Kathy:not chronological. So there was that one my own wedding. there was a girl, from, you know, from the neighborhood I was in. Like she, I was like in hou in the house party at her wedding. I was also house party at my cousin Christie's wedding.
Drea:What does that mean? What's a house
Kathy:you know, it's like you're not a bridesmaid, but you're there doing other things, like
Drea:I.
Kathy:passing out programs or greeting people or having people sign the guest book,
Drea:Okay,
Kathy:And then also, like at my cousin Christie's wedding, we, me and her other, her cousin from the other side, we were house party. We cut and served the cake, which, speaking of broken air conditioners, this was in Eden, Oklahoma in the summer, the air conditioner in that room that they had reserved at the hotel, which there's not a lot of options for hotels in Eden o Eden, ed. Enid, Oklahoma. the condition broke in that section of the hotel and the c buttercream cake was melting. So we're like trying to cut this cake as it was melting. Never been so sticky in my life. I never wanted to wear that. Laura Ashley, just again, cuz I was just, in my mind it was sticky. then
Drea:was Laura Ashley. I mean, really
Kathy:yeah, it was floral and sticky. Yeah. but my mom wanted, it was my senior year of high school and she wanted me to wear it, like various events.
Drea:Oh,
Kathy:and then my, her sister, my cousin Katie, I was a bridesmaid. Her wedding, I was in Lisa's wedding. I was in my friendly Laura's wedding. I was in my friend and roommate art's wedding, and then I did the Flowers for Carrie's wedding. So I'm counting that too. So,
Drea:you were in my house party
Kathy:Yes, I was. I was. That's 10 actually.
Meags:Oh my
Drea:you in charge. What did I put? I put you in charge of something. It was
Kathy:the table decorations.
Drea:decorations. That's
Lisa:I remember helping with that. Yes.
Kathy:Yes. I recruited, I recruited all of you to help me.
Lisa:yes.
Drea:except Megan. Megan was babysitting me.
Meags:Yeah.
Lisa:Oh, oh
Kathy:I think I did a little bit of that too.
Lisa:yeah. You,
Meags:There was plenty of babysitting to go around.
Lisa:your whole, like, everybody that day just blamed us for you being hungover. That's what I remember.
Drea:Oh, but that was the day
Kathy:That was the day before.
Meags:Yeah,
Drea:No, my drinking habits and problems are my mine only. Oh, they're mine.
Lisa:Yeah.
Drea:I own
Lisa:Walking, walking into that tea or whatever. The lunch, the luncheon, we
Drea:Oh,
Lisa:like an hour late.
Drea:yeah.
Meags:so funny what different people remember from different, I don't remember that part of it.
Kathy:I
Drea:Oh, we'll do, we'll do hangovers on one of these things, and then we'll have plenty of great conversations
Meags:oh my God, I can't even imagine. I can't even imagine.
Lisa:No,
Drea:all right. Who,
Meags:You gotta count for us, Lisa.
Lisa:yeah, I thought I had seven. Now I'm going like, okay. So I, I read in Andreas, I was at my two sisters' weddings. I was in Kathy's wedding, but I feel like there's another wedding. I
Kathy:your own way.
Lisa:I was in my own wedding, so that's six. So it was just six. Right? Well, this,
Drea:a good number.
Lisa:I feel like it's yesterday count counted as being in the house party. I was in charge of setting stuff up at the church and then taking that stuff down and taking to the reception, and then I was just supposed to check and make sure the reception was okay. They, they were just getting started to set up, so it was like set up. It was insane, but it all went well at the end. It was all beautiful in the end.
Meags:Yeah.
Drea:Good.
Meags:Yes. Yeah, we, I attended a one thing like that once with, my college boyfriend, one of his fraternity brothers was getting married and. We had the rehearsal dinner and everybody's chatting. And so I go into the other room to see what everybody's chatting about and the bride is handing out tasks for the next day, which is the wedding day. We are on the end, like quite literally on the end of Mount Desert Island in Maine, which is not near anything and she's sending people out for things like napkins, batteries. And I was like, what is happening here?
Drea:That's what Amazon's for.
Meags:I was like, how could you, like, those are not like, that's not like a little like, it was not like, oh, I forgot a couple of things from somebody run. It was like, can everybody go get everything for the wedding? It was it. I had to walk away cuz Jason was like, you, it looks like your head's gonna explode on it. My head is very close to exploding. Like, this is not, I've been in a lot of weddings, like, that's not how you do this.
Kathy:No, how I was done.
Meags:No, that's not how it's done at all.
Lisa:Another interesting thing that came up at the wedding, someone asked me if I happened to have like a, what do you call it? Like a little sewing kit, A travel sewing kit on me. Like, no. And I, it was, my ne next year the bride's brothers getting married and she was the one, you know, going around trying to find somebody. And I told her, I said, you know, it's too late for Ellie, but for you, you need to have one of your bridesmaids be in charge of making a little sewing emergency kit, which includes things like buttons and thread and needles is very important. I think I still, I had Kathy's in my closet for years with my little emergency kit when I needed stuff. Kathy was on it. remember that.
Kathy:I was on it. The only thing I didn't have, the only thing I didn't anticipate was having to paper towel your armpits. So we did have to go to the store to get that on in from the bus.
Lisa:I did not, I wanna note everybody was not a stinky bride. It was
Kathy:No she
Lisa:had,
Drea:Couldn't help it. Your body sweats?
Kathy:we were driving around in a hot, un air conditioned van, going to take pictures outside and you know, we had a blot. We had a blot,
Drea:Mm mm.
Lisa:and then I remember we sat, we sat, yeah, we, and I think we got more beer too at this grocery store.
Kathy:we got beer and water,
Lisa:everyone's like, and I was like, oh, you should go use the bathroom. And I'm like, I don't wanna go in there like, oh, go ahead. I'm like, I'm not gonna go in my wedding dress into a grocery store to use the toilet. I'll be fine.
Drea:So Megan, how many weddings have you been in?
Meags:I keep getting distracted cause I keep trying to start counting and I'm listening to you guys. So here we go. We're gonna try this again. I was in Aunt Martha's wedding. I was in Aunt Dan's wedding. I was in. I think that's it for the family ones. No, wait, was I in Sean's wedding? I don't think I was in Sean's wedding. I was, I read in my brother's wedding, I officiated Jason's wedding, which was a whole thing. I was in my own wedding. I was in Andrea's wedding. I was in, I read at Liza's wedding and I feel like there's somebody else's wedding I read at, I was like the one in CCD when we were growing up that read, like who didn't care, who like would get up and read in front of, no matter how big the crowd was. So like everybody wanted me to read at their wedding. Like I feel like there was one more in there, but that puts me at like seven. and if we counted the house party thing, I think I'd probably be more like 10 because
Kathy:I,
Meags:my mother has hosted a number of weddings for other people that I have helped her. Together.
Kathy:I forgot I'm at 11 because I forgot I was in my brother's wedding.
Meags:Oh, there you go.
Kathy:It was an important one, I
Meags:That is, all right, what is like the weirdest or most unusual wedding that you have attended. Or perhaps unusual. You know, it doesn't have to be the whole kick bootle. It might just have been one really weird part.
Lisa:My, I guess it would be the Wedding Joe's best man or his best man's wedding in Mexico. And it was nice. It was a very small wedding party, you know, that had gone, she had a couple sisters there, she had a grown up daughter that was there with her now husband and I don't even know how many people there. And some other couples. There was this one guy who like the whole, you know, we had the nice eating reception cuz they were at the all inclusive hotel. So we had the reception, you know, good food at one spot and then we all went to like the bar, there was like this rooftop bar. And as soon as we got there, he started hitting on me. I'm like, dude, you're here with your wife. I'm here with my husband. I'm like, it was just really obnoxious and annoying. And then I said, Joe and Joe first laughed and thought it was funny, and then he like overheard the guy talking to me. Like was like, oh, he's, you're for real. Like he really is.
Meags:Yeah. Yikes.
Lisa:Yeah. It was weird like you did that at a wedding. I mean, no. Very
Meags:yeah, agreed. Weird. Very weird.
Lisa:I have hooked up when we, when I was single, I have did hook up at a couple weddings, trust me. But that was not, not was when you're married, does that happen?
Drea:They should not,
Meags:No,
Lisa:Mm.
Meags:no. There was a guy who tried to pick me up in one of the bars in Austin after Dre's wedding, and I was still wearing the bridesmaid outfit. And I was like, are you even for real? What are you doing? Like, hi, aye. Yay boys. The boys, boys, boys. but I'm trying to think like, I've definitely been this, that have had some weird. Things, but I'm trying to think of like, the one, I think the ones that strike me as the weirdest was we were invited to a wedding, on a ferry boat, which was really fun. And it was a friend of my husband's from growing up in high school, and he had already part company with wife number one, very, very acrimoniously. but we were invited. So we went, we're out on this boat, they finally get to the ceremony and the groom's mother, who I know very well is officiating the ceremony. And I'm like, oh, like, well, maybe Abby got like her online like I did for Jason, like, you know, thing to marry people. And I was like, huh, that's weird. so we done the rest of the reception. We get back to the dock, oh, all hell breaks loose cuz somebody jumps off the ferry and then the police come. But like, that's not even when it gets weird because we are with the bride and groom in the restaurant after we've gotten back to dry land. And I say something about like, oh, you know, like if you need me to sign anything, I have already done all the paperwork so like I can sign your wedding thing. And she was like, oh no, no, we're, we're not really getting married. I was like, excuse me? I said, are you telling me that you just invited me to a wedding that I brought a rather nice gift to that is not actually a wedding. right. Because, you know, the groom, has not paid taxes in a very long time and in general just tries to stay off any kind of, official government type. Listy document things. So nope, they just, opted to have a big party and send out wedding invitations, but not actually get married. I was livid. I was like, what? Like, you know, be honest. Don't tell me you're getting married and, and then tell me it's not a wedding you, that's not,
Drea:Yeah. That's not cool. That's not cool.
Meags:But the other one that I went to that was like, that was a little bit more, accidental, which was my parents hosted. I tell the story all the time as the store to brides to be, cuz I always tell them like, you know, you have two jobs the day you get married, have a good time, get legally married. And they laugh. And I say no, really? Because like in Maine you have to get your license however, may, any days in advance. And so my mother hosted a wedding for friends of my brother. Who, were actually from Texas and his, you know, his, he was living in Maine with his mother. His father, who was a preacher, came from Texas to marry them in my mother's living room, because of course his high, you know, like these, these two are in high school. They're like seniors in high school. His girlfriend is very pregnant. Okay, great. So my mom's hosting this whole thing at the house. He comes, he, you know, does the whole ceremony. and my mom is shaking her head and I'm like, what? And she's like, it's, they're not actually married. I said, what do you mean they're not actually married? She said they, David didn't go and get the license in time. They can't get married until Monday. me. So like my parents' lawyer, who's a justice of the piece, had to come back on Monday and marry them at the kitchen table.
Drea:Oh wow.
Meags:not legally wed and they needed to be legally wed because she needed to get onto like whatever kind of insurance he, you know, he could offer as a senior in high school. I don't remember what that was, but yeah. But I was just like, okay, all these sham weddings, like what is happening? People Ridiculous. Ridiculous. Not what you're expecting at all. Like, I'm not asking for a lot when I go to a wedding. I'd like to have a good time. Sure.
Drea:You'd like people to actually get married,
Meags:I'd love to actually have a, a drink, which is not always the case in my husband's family, which is like another real sore point with me. Like dry weddings don't even, like I'm not going again. Nope. Sorry. Gonna, gonna send a gift next time.
Lisa:we went to one of those and Joe was like, in the wedding, he was an usher, so it was like the Baptist wedding upstairs in the church, and then downstairs was the reception, which was like, you know, yeah. You know, tea and cookies kind of reception. We were there for like a half hour and then I, and I sicker all, everybody started leaving all of his friends and we stood back, we're like, and then we joined them at the bar afterwards and had a great time.
Drea:Good. Good. I ha I have my weird, I have my weird, I had to think pretty hard about it. Cause I was like, you know, I know my wedding was different, but it wasn't weird. I don't think so anyway, but my, we're not really friends anymore. But Cotti got married, several years ago and it was her second wedding. And so, but she invited me and I was her, oh fuck. I was at another wedding. That was her maid of honor.
Meags:I was gonna say, we're gonna have to publish amended numbers after the podcast when we actually get out, get a piece of paper out and write all this shit down. I can tell this is, this was not, that was not a good on the fly question, and I apologize.
Drea:No worries. So, but yeah, so she's getting married on her birthday is, was is December 31st. So she decided to get married on her birthday, which I was like, that's a horrible idea. Like, you know, this is your second wedding. I mean, like, how do you know you could completely ruin your birthday, but
Kathy:Yep.
Drea:you know, I'm like, whatever. It's your, it's your life. So we go and it, it's in the hill country in Texas. I am wearing, I was wearing a dress that was sleeveless and it was like, I don't know, 50 degrees outside. So it was pretty chilly. And they decided to get married
Lisa:wedding. Sorry, I was another.
Drea:So they, so they, so they decided to get married. Like I said outside and it's freezing and it's windy. And she comes down the aisle to that Black Betty song.
Meags:Oh my goodness.
Drea:Yeah. So she comes down to the Black Betty song, which is peculiar. And then her husband is, apparently, I liked him a lot, but I had no idea kind of how, devout he is to God and Jesus and all that business. And he just, he had like a scroll. I'm not, I'm not kidding you, like a long piece of paper that he was just reading all this shit about how God brought her to him and how much he loves her and this and that, and like, and I'm so cold. I was like, fuck did I just finished? I mean, it was like, it just kept growing piece paper kept growing. I. I was so happy when he finished. He was a lovely guy, but I was like, this is so weird. This is so weird. The whole thing was peculiar. So, all right. That's my story. That's my weirdness.
Lisa:That just, it reminded me of I was in a wedding, my friend Tara, I didn't count it earlier, so I had another one. It was this like backless dress. It was April and she got married in Colo outside of Columbia, Missouri. It was at this winery on this like cliff. And down there, the bottom of the cliff was the Missouri River. So it was a chilly day and this wind blowing and I am just shaking my whole
Drea:Yes. I was
Lisa:so cold. And Joe came and put his, I remember his like, spark coat on me. I like wore that through the whole reception cause I was freezing my butt off. Oh my god. That was horrible. And the whole reception was like, oh, you look so cold. It's like everybody, every single guest had to tell me cold. I looked, I'm like, thanks.
Meags:Yeah.
Drea:Yeah, I was definitely shaking. I was definitely, but I didn't wanna put on a jacket. It ruined the outfit, you
Meags:Oh.
Lisa:After the reception, I mean, once the wedding ceremony was over, who cared for? I got the,
Drea:Other than that,
Meags:Yeah. You got a weird one for us, Kathy.
Kathy:I have a, I have a weird one, but I'm not gonna mention it on here, so, we'll, we can talk about that after, but, but there was one that, the wedding itself wasn't weird, but kind of talk like, along the same lines of the making sure you're legally married. so my friend got married, my best friend got married in Costa Rica. And in order for it to be legal in the United States, you had to like have, it's like a notary public, right? So she had arranged ahead of time, and they are not religious people, but the guy's name happened to be Jesus. And so Jesus came to the house that she had rented to have the reception at, where we were also getting ready. So, but Jesus came like a couple hours before the actual ceremony, which her aunt was officiating and, to do, like to legally marry them and do the paperwork only, like none of us were really thinking of it being like, like, oh, that's the actual thing. Like we just were thinking, oh, he is coming in with the papers and we have to sign them. And so we were all hanging out at the house. I had been doing the flowers, there was a pool, people were swimming and then someone comes and says, you have to come downstairs right now. Jesus in here.
Drea:You gotta be this Jesus guy.
Kathy:And so, we go downstairs and literally like my friends that were getting married were like in their bathing suits. I had just gotten a shower. I was in a towel and my hair was wrapped up and. They're like, you have to witness it. And I was like, okay. And then not realizing that literally he, Jesus had us stand there at the side of the table, we're outside and the side of the table, and they're like, in their bathing suits. They're like a towel. My hair's like wrapped in a towel her dad gets out the video camera. I'm like, do you know Yeah. Videos? I'm like, literally like, barely not naked. I was like, this is so weird. Anyway, that was, and he, but he actually like performed like the actual ceremony. I just, I don't know, like in our, I think in all of our minds, we were just thinking we were just gonna sign some paperwork. but he actually performed like a ceremony. I was like, oh my God.
Drea:Oh wow.
Kathy:I'm like, we should have just given ourselves five more minutes and like, I don't know, put clothes on.
Drea:All right. What's the next question
Meags:here we go. Last question, final question. This is another one we might need to think about for just a moment, but, when you were a little kid, thought about getting married. What did, did, was there anything that you were like, yes, it's going to be like this. I'm gonna have this, I'm gonna, I'm gonna have this, I'm gonna wear this. Something like, something that you just assumed was what you would do or something that like stylistically you were like, yes. Like that is a hundred percent where I'm headed.
Drea:I can tell you, honest to God, I did not think about weddings until I was like ready to get married.
Meags:Yeah.
Drea:I could just straight up, I don't remember ever date dreaming about it at all when I was a kid.
Meags:I have a very distinct recollection of seeing a picture, and I don't know where I would've seen it. It must have been in a magazine. but there was, the bride and all of her attendance were also in white, but it was the seventies, so they were in white and they had on huge white sunhats. And then they had rainbow, like they were all the different colors of the rainbow ses. So like the red bridesmaid,
Drea:Oh
Meags:the yellow bridesmaid around their waist and on their hat. And I was like, sold. I'm definitely doing that. That's the coolest thing I've ever seen. And my mother was like, Megan. and I did not end up having a rainbow wedding, but boy did I think rainbow weddings were gonna be it. I was, I was very, I was very enamored with that idea. What do you think, Lisa? Is there anything that you thought, oh, I'll definitely do that when I get married.
Lisa:You know, I, I dunno. Cause like my older sister will talk, I remember she always like was planning her wedding and be like, well this is gonna happen, this is gonna, and I was, I don't remember planning it, but I do remember seeing, looking at the, my parents' wedding albums, you know, and I got married in 1968, so very sixties, stylish wedding. You know, very tastefully done. Cause that's my mother. But it was just, and I just was like, well that, you know, I want my wedding to just be. Something very tasteful and what have you. And I, the one, I mean, I did end up wearing maybe because I looked at her pictures all the time and that was stuck in my head. I wore her veil at my wedding. So
Meags:there you
Drea:That's sweet.
Lisa:yeah, I know it's surprising that my mother and I would have some sort of connection considering, but we won't go there
Drea:No, but I think it's a great, like, I mean, I, I didn't wear a veil cuz of course I would had my crown on.
Lisa:worse.
Drea:not naturally. But I think that's a great, like for women who want to honor their mother and like, but not wear their wedding dress. Cuz I know that happens sometimes their moms want their kids to wear their wedding dress. That's kind of a cool way to do it
Lisa:Yeah. Well, and I, partly, I could, there's no way I could have worn her dress since it was like five inches taller than her. So, but yeah, I mean, I, I just never thought of it and she was, Like, oh, you don't have to. It's very yellow. It had age and the veil had two. I guess when we were kids, we, I don't know, one of us must have begged her to tear it open so it got a little aged, but it had yellowed enough that it matched my dress. Cause my dress was off white,
Drea:yeah. It was kind of creamy. Yeah. You had a beautiful dress.
Lisa:Oh, thank you
Drea:You all had beautiful dresses.
Lisa:Pink.
Drea:It is pink.
Meags:It was very pink. It was very pink. yes. The other thing that I thought that I would always have at my wedding, and I announced to my mother was that I would get married at the Church of the Cul Conception in Lowell, Massachusetts, two hours away from where we actually lived and have the reception at the country club, because that was what, I had literally been to like five weddings like that before I turned 10. And my mom was like, you're not getting married in Massachusetts. And I was like, what? how we do it, mom. This is how we do it. And she was like, no, you're not. Like, that's like, you're, you're gonna feel differently when you get to the part where you actually do this. And I did feel differently though, but as I was kid, I was just convinced. Cause like I just kept going. Sam weddings in the same place. And so I was like, all right, well this is what we do. This is how it's done.
Drea:what about you, Cathy?
Kathy:I, you know, it's funny, I don't, I don't think I had something like super, super specific, but thinking back on it, I do remember, pretend like, my friends would come over and we'd spend the night and we would put like towels and we would use headbands and like to like be like a veil and somehow also roller skate. Cuz I mean, it was the seventies roller skate around my house with towel towel veils. But I think that, like,
Drea:I love it.
Kathy:in my mind after seeing, you know, like, sound of music and I, I guess, and, and you know, princess Diana's wedding, whatever I would've thought that, I probably would've done, cuz I remember I just, those are like, like weddings to me. Right. Would've been, I think I would've done something like, I would've probably wanted something very. A very long veil and a very long train. And of course, the reality was I did neither, I had, I had zero train on my dress. I did not wear a veil. and I did think, I mean, like there was, so my, my mother wore my grandmother's headpiece, but I, I was like, if this thing still exists, I'm not gonna wear it.
Drea:Yeah.
Kathy:so it could, I mean, it's not like a, it was like a, it was like, like netting over I guess some sort of wire frame. So it was like a, a,
Meags:cage.
Kathy:no, it was like flat and like here,
Meags:Oh,
Kathy:but both like wore like flowers. So my grandmother was in the forties and it was like little white flowers and it's very pretty. And then my mom was like, like late sixties and it was like daisies. And I was just like, I'm not, and they, and my mom wore my, she did wear my grandmother's wedding dress too, and there's no way that was gonna fit me. And, I'm pretty sure it was, it was ruined by then anyway, cuz my, my cousin who lived with my grandparents for a while, used to, used to get it out and play with it. And so it had, yellowed and stained. but yeah, I think I would've thought that it would be like some big, massive chapel with like, or church, you know, with like a long aisle and like a lot, a lot of fabric.
Meags:Yeah. It's so funny to hear you all talk about old dresses cuz like that there was no, I am like, built very differently than my mother or my grandmother. and in fact my grandmother's dress is gorgeous. But, my grandmother, as far as I can tell, in the forties, my grandmother was existing completely just on cigarettes, scotch. and was amazingly thin. Like crazy thin to the point that like we did have like a family friend who wore it and it was gorgeous. And then my sister-in-law was gonna wear it and like, she's very slim, but she's much more athletic and so she couldn't zip it. But all I remember is her trying it on and my grandmother was there and at that point my grandmother was probably in her eighties. Ah. And you know, Tara tries to get it on and she can't get it all the way zipped. Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. And so she leaves the room to go take it off and my grandmother looks at me and goes, still the skinniest one. You are ridiculous.
Drea:Oh my God.
Meags:She was very,
Drea:God.
Meags:yeah. I was like, man, like you just never, like some of those body issue things, they go way deep way, way deep. Yeah. Like still, still winning in your eighties, cuz other people can't wear your wedding dress.
Kathy:I'm a good seven inches taller than my mom, and, and my grandmother was maybe an inch or two taller than her. So, I mean, there was no way I was gonna be able to wear that dress even if it hadn't been ruined.
Meags:no. Like I, I built very differently. Like when, when my mother got married, she probably weighed. She was very thin. She was very thin and very small, cuz it was before she had any of us. So she was, and she, yeah, she was like my, yeah, I'm like six inches taller than my mom at this point. So Yeah.
Kathy:My
Meags:was not, it was not in the cards.
Kathy:my mom was a very tiny person when she got married and, and my grandmother was taller than her, so they, so that dress, by the time my mom wore it got. Smaller,
Meags:yeah. Like it's a nice idea, but I think
Kathy:Yeah.
Meags:it's tough in real life.
Kathy:Yeah.
Drea:Yeah. I didn't have, I never wanted to wear my mom's wedding dress, and there's no way I could have worn my grandmother's even if I could have found it. So there's none of that in my, none of that in my life.
Meags:No, no. Sometimes things just don't, don't roll out that way. But there you go.
Lisa:I mean, and I saved my not knowing. What, how many are, you know, children? I'd have, I have two boys, so who knows if anyone will wear it, but I guess it's there if my
Drea:I'll wear it, Lisa.
Lisa:girl.
Drea:I'll wear it. I'll just wear it
Meags:Somebody can turn it into a baptismal gown.
Drea:Yeah.
Lisa:There you go. Well, my, my flower girl who got married yesterday, her flower girl dress was actually made with her mother's wedding dress.
Drea:Aw, that's cute.
Meags:Nice.
Lisa:Yeah.
Drea:All right.
Meags:Yeah,
Drea:Okay, ladies.
Meags:of my fellow girls are all married frames. Very disturbing.
Drea:Hmm.
Meags:talk. Done the end.
Drea:Awesome. Love you guys. See you. See you soon. Probably next week, hopefully.
Meags:See if travels to all my travelers. Love y'all.
Drea:Bye. Love you. Bye.